Hello, my name is Kelly Gurnett, but you can call me Cordelia. I’m a freelance writer, editor and a hard-fought escapee from the 9-to-5.
And I have officially Called It Quits.
What exactly have I called it quits on?
To living on autopilot.
To structuring my world around other people’s biases and other people’s expectations.
To resigning myself to a “more, bigger faster,” lather/rinse/repeat life.
And especially to the notion that that’s “just the way things are.”
There are better things to do with a life, and I aim to find them.
When I was little, I had this recurring dream where I woke up one morning to find myself in someone else’s life (more than likely tied to my fondness for Quantum Leap). I’d have to try to get through the day without tipping anyone off to the fact that I was actually an impostor. It was a little scary, but also a pretty cool adventure.
In late 2011, I realized I’d been waking up feeling more and more like I was doing that exact thing. Only it wasn’t really an adventure, and it definitely wasn’t cool. It was just depressing. I’d always imagined I’d be a writer of some sort, and things were going smoothly in that direction until I hit college and went crazy. When I emerged, degree in hand but not much else, I shuffled off to the 9-to-5 existence I always swore I’d never have because… well, I didn’t know what else to do, honestly.
I was miserable.
Like clinically, about-to-drive-my-car-into-a-guardrail miserable.
It scared the shit out of me.
So I did what anyone would do in this situation and decided to start a blog after watching Julie & Julia one day and figuring I had nothing to lose. Over the course of two and a half years, I slowly worked my way up the blogosphere while building my freelance side hustle until I was able to quit my job altogether. (See here for the full journey, including a recent snag in the story that has since been rectified.)
It wasn’t easy, but for the first time in a long time, I felt like my life was “mine” again — and it was something I actually (gasp!) liked.
But I didn’t want to stop there.
Because quitting my job was a goal I knew I wouldn’t reach right away, and because once the self-improvement/lifestyle-design bug bit me, I was hooked. So I set myself on a mission to learn to live deliberately. To make intentional choices, to live an intentional life, and to try to make each day just a little bit closer to the life I’d like to live.
That’s where my Quits come in.
This blog documents my attempts to rid my life of the things that don’t matter and focus more on the things that do. My Quits are my official calling of “shenanigans!” on anything that doesn’t make the cut for an awesome life.
Sometimes the Quits stick.
Sometimes I mess up and backslide.
Sometimes a Quit that was once relevant no longer is.
Such is the evolution of life. The important thing is that I continue to regularly examine what’s in my life and refuse to accept anything that’s less-than.
Being a Quitter isn’t about negativity or sacrifice or being a perfect human; it’s about being true to yourself, refusing to be limited by things that don’t matter, and living each day as intentionally as you can in the hopes of making it a little bit awesomer than the day before.
You can check out the full list of everything I and my readers have quit here.
Who am I? I’m just a conformity-hating, challenge-loving, Fight-the-Power girl who’s on a journey to live every day a little better than the last.
I’m 30-(mumble)-something, I live in the Buffalo, NY area (insert snow jokes here) and my days consist of tending to my awesome writing and editing clients, being around dogs whenever possible, and building this here blog from the glorious comforts of my own home. My combination English/Religious Studies major prepared me either for this or for a life spent as a glorified administrative assistant.
I did the assistant thing already; it wasn’t for me. Escaping took some doing, but if I can do it, anyone can. I reallky, truly believe that.
I enjoy good coffee, good bourbon (it makes me feel like classy gentleman) and good, quality snark — preferably all at the same time.
If you want to be a Quitter, too (all the cool kids are doing it!), click here to download the free ebook that will help you do just that.
Interested in working together? I’m here for you.