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Link Love 5/25/12

2012 May 25
by Cordelia

[Every Friday, I share my favorite reads from around the blogosphere over the past week.  Enjoy!]


Fuck Shit Balls I Didn’t Finish Those Edits, Yet. And Other Stuff That Doesn’t Matter. (In Memory of Enrique.)
As I watched from a distance, in shock, I was suddenly overcome by grief.

In the name of my own past, in the name of this young, 20-something boy whose life had just ended, right there before my very eyes, and in the name of the fleeting nature of it all.


No promises.

No rain checks.

No “see you laters,” or “let’s catch up soons.”

Because your future does not exist.

It’s nothing more than a hopeful projection. A prediction. A mental concept. A figment of your imagination. A wish. And a gamble.

We assume the future exists, but we have no way of knowing, or assuring, or even buying our own bus pass there.

We can only roll the dice.
~Ash Ambirge at The Middle Finger Project


ROWE and Personal Responsibility: Why We Cling to Old Workplace Rules
ROWE puts a lot of pressure and personal responsibility on each worker. Most people want credit for effort — “Look how many hours I worked; I worked on this project all weekend!” Yet, if the project isn’t finished by deadline, if you do not meet your results, the amount of effort really doesn’t matter. It’s as if the workforce is still expecting “Participation Awards” that they hand out in elementary school.

The wonderful thing about focusing on results is that you no longer have these kinds of ridiculous conversations: “I see you’re 10 minutes late… I see you’ve taken a lot of time-off in the month of June… Why are you leaving at 4:30 today?… No, you can’t work from home two days a week to save on gas.” You can’t be taken to task for anything but the work.
~Cali Ressler and Jody Thompson at CultureRX


How To Make Tough Decisions By Flipping A Coin—And Be Right Every Time
Have you ever been forced to make a choice, but you’re torn between two options, unable to make a decision? Would you believe that the simple flip of a coin can guarantee you make the right choice every time?

It’s true.
~Nate St. Pierre

*Cordelia note:  I was totally going to write on this same technique before Mr. St. Pierre wrote about it first.  But I can’t begrudge him this because he’s a friend.  (Grrr…)


Do You Want The Truth Or Something Beautiful?
We are conditioned to believe that we want the truth. We want the basics. We want the realities.

But people really don’t want to hear the truth most of the time. Even when they ask for it.

They want to hear a beautiful lie.
~Elisa Doucette at Ophelia’s Webb


How do You Really want to Feel while you work?
You have to look at what brings you the most happiness and fight for it.

Don’t back down because someone at work puts your idea down.

Don’t give up because there is too much red tape.

Don’t stop believing in your idea because other people are scared by it.

If you want to feel a certain way the only thing in your way is you.
~Karl Staib at Work Happy Now


Imagine a life where all your time is spent on the things you want to do.

Imagine giving your greatest attention to a project you create yourself, instead of working as a cog in a machine that exists to make other people rich.

Imagine handing a letter to your boss that reads, “Dear Boss, I’m writing to let you know that your services are no longer required. Thanks for everything, but I’ll be doing things my own way now.”

….All over the world, and in many different ways, thousands of people are doing exactly that. They are rewriting the rules of work, becoming their own bosses, and creating a new future…
~guest post by Chris Guillebeau at Zen Habits


The Little Guide to Contentedness
There is no way to account for the tremendous change that happens when you learn to accept who you are, when you tell yourself you are perfect just as you are, when you love yourself and everything about yourself. You stop criticizing yourself, you are happier, you are a better person to be around, and you can now help others and work without the insecurities you had before.

This is not a magical state, and doesn’t require any new tools or books. It’s simple, and I’ll share what has worked for me.
~Leo Babauta at Zen Habits

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  • Karen J

    happy Holiday weekend, Cordelia!

    I inadvertently followed your pointer over to TMFProject last night – WOW!  – Ash is a hoot!
    and she writes some really GoodShitMaynard!

    Thanks,as always, for sharing ~

    • Cordelia

       Yeah, if you have not yet acquainted yourself with Ms. Ambirge, I would recommend doing it yesterday.  She is hot stuff.

      Hope you had a great weekend, too!