Link Love & Cordelia Around the Web (5/31/13)
Awesome Stuff from Awesome People
The Myth of Effortless Success
Listen, I get it. I get the overwhelming desire to want to look like you have all of your shit together. I get that it seems sexy not to have a single care in the world. I get that relying on other people and asking for help and taking time to build structure and routine into your life to support you while you change your habits and go after your goals can seem tedious and overwhelming. But you know what? It’s fucking worth it.
~Nicole Antoinette at A Life Less Bullshit
Overcoming the impossibility of amazing
If you set your bar at “amazing,” it’s awfully difficult to start.
Your first paragraph, sketch, formula, sample or concept isn’t going to be amazing. Your tenth one might not be either.
Confronted with the gap between your vision of perfect and the reality of what you’ve created, the easiest path is no path. Shrug. Admit defeat. Hit delete.
One more reason to follow someone else and wait for instructions.
Don’t Assume That Everything Is So Different These Days.
I was particularly struck by one paragraph.
“We are so overwhelmed with things these days that our lives are all, more or less, cluttered. I believe it is this, rather than a shortness of time, that gives us that feeling of hurry and almost of helplessness. Everyone is hurrying and usually just a little late. Notice the faces of the people who rush past on the streets or on our country roads! They nearly all have a strained, harassed look, and anyone you meet will tell you there is no time for anything anymore.”
Remember, she wrote this in 1924 when she lived on a farm in a rural part of the Ozarks in Missouri.
I think that we often assume that we feel rushed, hurried, and overwhelmed because of the internet, email, TV, and other newfangled contraptions. But here’s Wilder describing the same phenomenon.
~Gretchen Rubin at The Happiness Project
Why Owning Up to Ourselves is the Most Important Step
Everyone has reasons for their debt. For some it’s college tuition, for others it’s through being laid off or, as in my case, through over-spending on credit cards to try to (and fail at) keep myself happy when I was ill.
Some reasons for getting into debt are silly, like mine. Some are more understandable, like wanting to become a doctor and needing to pay your way. The united thread, however, is that they are all valid reasons.
Why valid? Because they have all already happened. I got into debt because I spent too much on credit cards: Nothing I can do now will ever change that fact, so it’s a valid reason, it’s just a silly one that makes me feel like a bit of a twit.
We need to take ourselves away from the idea that we’re the only ones who have done something silly in our lives, who have made decisions that have put us in a bad place. Because everyone has made decisions that impact their finances and everyone has a valid reason for debt.
Cordelia Around the Web
In which I shamelessly promote other posts I’ve written recently.
- The Best-Kept Career Secrets (Brazen Life)
- Not Sure Which Direction to Go In? Try These Tips to Get Un-Stuck (Grad Meets World)
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