Every Friday, I share my favorite reads from around the blogosphere, plus any extra stuff I’ve written outside this blog. Enjoy!
Awesome Stuff from Awesome People
If You Don’t Really Want It, Stop Doing It
There are very few goals that can be accomplished by brute force. Sure, there are certain challenges we can bulldoze our way through, but more often than not, the answer isn’t to just keep blindly pushing, it’s to adjust your expectations and change your plan…
…If you’re exhausting yourself in the pursuit of something you don’t even really want? Fuck that. It’s okay to cut your losses, to back out, to quit. Sometimes quitting is the absolute kindest and smartest thing you can do for yourself. Just because you’ve been doing something for a while doesn’t mean you need to keep doing it. You don’t need permission to scrap an unfinished project. To scrap all your unfinished projects. To look at something and say, “You know what? I thought I wanted this, but it turns out I really don’t.”
~Nicole Antoinette at A Life Less Bullshit
Let’s Crush the Fluffy Self-Help Bullshit
With all of this self-help bullshit crushed there has been one trend throughout the whole thing. There is one thing missing from each of these ideas.
Do you know what it is? ACTION.
All of these ideas lack any strong base. You can’t take any action and there are no practical steps.
If you really do enjoy any of the things I listed above then that’s fine. Go and be happy.
I’m not going to tell you how to live your life. But you may want to read another blog because those topics won’t be talked about here.
Real change happens when one foot is put in front of the other and action is taken.
Regardless of all the other tools in your arsenal, action is the only way.
So bust your ass and be happy that you’re making the most of your time. Because no amount of wishing and waiting will help you.
~Kevin Cole at Perform Destiny
Adultery Saturdays: The 10 (False) Commandments of Adulthood
6) You’re polite, controlled, and balanced all of the time always, forever and ever, (amen.)
You never cry a little when someone yells at you, or (GOODNESS FORBID), raise your voice back. You never laugh too loudly at coffee with a friend when she tells you about her neighbor who makes meatballs naked every Sunday morning. And you never hold eye contact too long with that fine piece of ass across the room, (or say things like fine piece of ass). Because you’re reserved. Because you’re refined. Because you’re appropriate.
Newsflash: SOMETIMES YOU FEEL THINGS, AND IT IS OKAY TO BE A WEIRDO WHO DRAWS ATTENTION TO YOURSELF. And watch naked meatballs be made. Because, hello, who doesn’t love Italian?
~Jessica Manuszak at The Middle Finger Project
Happiness haters: Why?
As a Pollyanna, Susie Sunshine type, I’m always looking for ways to be happier, whether it’s at work or in my daily life. And I know that this annoys people. I’ve actually had coworkers tell me, when I try to look on the bright side of a situation, “Why do you have to be so perky all the time?”
My answer (at least in my head) is always “Why wouldn’t you want to be optimistic? Would you rather be miserable and cynical?”
Unfortunately, the answer seems to be “Yes” most of the time.
The best I can figure is that these people are afraid I’m going to make them look bad, or that if I show them it’s possible to be happier about things, they’ll have to try a little harder to break out of their cynical rut, and they don’t want to do that. But I’m not trying to be a suck-up or put up a false front…I just genuinely live my life with as much happiness as I can find. Because I don’t see the point in being miserable when you don’t have to be.
~Em at Blonde & Balanced
Cordelia Around the Web
In which I shamelessly promote other posts I’ve written recently.
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