Link Love 4/20 – 4/27/12
This week’s a double dose as last Friday was preempted by my guest post over at Time Management Ninja. So sit back, grab a beverage of your choice (I won’t judge, whatever it is), and get ready to get your read on!
Potty Mouth Ambirge Strikes Again: Reporting Live From Costa Rica, Hot Poker In Hand.
I’m pretty sure that even if you don’t happen to have Costa Rica in your backyard, just closing your laptop for a few days and remembering that YOU’RE WORTH IT would do the trick.
You’re worth taking the extra time.
You’re worth the luxury of sleeping in when you need to.
You’re worth cutting yourself some slack.
You’re worth doing things the way you FEEL LIKE DOING THEM.
You’re worth a break.
You’re worth the opportunity to get outside and breath fresh air.
You’re worth that 3rd cup of coffee.
You’re worth the extra long shower.
You’re worth the more expensive version.
You’re worth the nice bottle of wine.
You’re worth taking the time to HAVE FUN.
You’re worth allowing yourself to be ridiculous, and create a Ramon photo collection.
You’re worth feeling what you want to feel.
You’re worth doing what you want to do.
You’re worth your wildest dreams.
And you’re worth carving out the time to nourish them.
~Ashley Ambirge at The Middle Finger Project
Get a P90X Life Lesson without breaking a sweat
“It didn’t happen over night, didn’t happen in my teens, 20′s, 30′s. It happened in my 40′s. Keep doing your thing. Keep following your passion. Because if you do, it can happen.” ~Tony Horton, inventor of P90X
~Benny Hsu at Get Busy Living
How to Fail at Habits
Looking back on those days, given the power of retrospect, I now know that I did everything wrong. I was setting myself up for failure, and in failing often and not learning from those mistakes, I was learning to be good at failing. Failing became my habit.
And while I’m actually a fan of failing as a method for learning how to get better at something quickly, if you’re not learning from your failures, it’s not as useful. So in that spirit, I’d like to share what I’ve learned from my failures so that you might glean some useful information from my suffering.
~Leo Babauta at Zen Habits
Burn All Your Crap In A Bonfire (If That’s What It Takes)
Obviously, I’m being cheeky when talking about the bonfire. But I’m not being cheeky about the end result.
Nothing is more important than parting ways with the crap that bogs down your life.
In other words, it’s easy to get sidetracked.
It’s easy to get attached to the “value” that you put into something years ago (or even weeks ago) and thus let it keep you from ditching the physical clutter that plagues you.
Don’t let anything stop you!
~Adam Baker at Man vs. Debt
From Eviction to Vacation in 10 Months
It’s October 2010. My beautiful new wife and I are sharing sandwiches for lunch while sitting in a purple VW Bug. The air conditioning is blasting cool air on our skin, and we are quietly staring out the windshield at the edge of a small, obscure beach on the northwest side of Maui.
It’s our honeymoon, and after a crazy couple of years, we were finally relaxing and enjoying ourselves in one of the most beautiful spots in the world.
Sounds pretty sweet, right? Before you switch off, though, thinking that I’m some well-off dude that you can’t relate to in your own financial struggles, I want to tell you a different story.
~guest post by Tom Meitner of Your Superhero Reboot at Budgets Are Sexy
The One Mistake People Make When Learning From Their Mistakes
I used to think it was necessary to vividly replay the “negative” experience to remind myself of the lesson I learned. I feared that if I forgot about the mistake, I would forget the valuable lesson.
What I didn’t realize was that by replaying the negative experience, I was actually filling my mind with negative thoughts such as shame, humiliation, and helplessness — all of which are not great ingredients for building a healthy self-image. When you repeat this type of thinking in a habitual way, even if your intentions are good, you’re going to experience lower self-esteem because that’s what you’re subconsciously feeding into your mind.
Mistakes are a necessary step to learning but once the lesson is learned, there is no need to dwell on the actual experience itself. The focus should be on the lesson and how you will apply this positive takeaway to other situations in the future.
~Robert Chen at Lifehack
The Only Two Ways To Achieve Your Goals (And Why You’re Probably Doing It Wrong)
Never be comfortable. Comfort is antagonistic towards change. Comfort doesn’t help you grow and comfort doesn’t help you get better. All it does is help perpetuate your current situation while convincing you that you’re moving forward.
Comfort is actually much worse than doing nothing because comfort lies to you. Comfort tells you that things are okay, when really, if you’re not actively growing, you’re dying. Things naturally deteriorate if you don’t actively work to improve and change them. Ever got comfortable with your fitness level and take an (extended) break? 3 weeks later, you’re way out of shape. Ever learned a new language, got comfortable with it and 6 months later you can’t remember a word?
Comfort lulls you into a belief that things are okay when they’re really worsening more and more. In a very real way, comfort = death.
So if you want to start doing the things you really want to do, the only thing you should be getting comfortable with is being uncomfortable.
~Joel Runyon at Blog of Impossible Things
Help, I’m Feeling Inadequate
After wallowing in some self-pity for a while, I learned that feeling inadequate isn’t nearly as bad as I thought it was. Here’s how to get perspective on the problem and channel the emotion for good.
~Jennifer Gresham at Everyday Bright
Money = Freedom?
We seem to have a different perspective when it comes to money. What if your dream is to go back to school to get a degree in parapsychology, your dream since childhood, but have no money? Oh, well, working as a parking attendant really isn’t that bad, and I get to read a lot on the job. What if you want to travel around the world in a sailboat but haven’t saved up three months worth of living expenses? Well, maybe one day…in the meantime, I’ll just watch America’s Cup on TV. You’re thinking about starting up your own business but haven’t had any luck with capital? The bank is probably right: these are tough times to start something up.
What is wrong with this mentality? Why is it that as soon as money is mentioned, people lose their fight? Because it’s not about the money; it’s about the fear. It’s about the fear because these are big dreams, huge dreams, dreams that matter so much that you don’t want them to fail. And you can’t fail if you don’t start. Voila: by listening to your money woes, you will never fail.
~Jonathan Mead at Illuminated Mind
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