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Link Love 8/5 – 8/12/11

2011 August 12
by Cordelia

[Every Friday, I share my favorite reads from around the blogosphere over the past week.  This week is a double edition as last week I was distracted by my participation in my husband’s “SUPER DATE” extravaganza.  It was pretty darn super.  Hope you think these reads are, too!]


Choose to Live an Epic Life
“One way to gauge how far or close you are to an epic life is to take the dreaded question test, ‘What do you do for a living?’

If you’re living anything but an epic life, you’ll hate answering it. I know that feeling. It’s horrible.

If it totally rocks, your body and soul feels proud to give that answer every time. You would be happy to keep on talking about it.

….So take a moment to think what you would answer if someone asked you what you did for a living?”
~Benny Hsu at Get Busy Living


You Are Here, Now
Now is this very moment that you are living, reading this. And I am incredibly grateful for that. I am grateful that you are here, now.

But now can slip.

Now becomes the past. Now becomes the moment of lost opportunities, of not jumping in. The moment of dreaming your life, instead of living your dream.

Now contains all the human potential in the world, and it invites you to make the best of it.”
~Fabian Kruse at The Friendly Anarchist


What’s Holding You Back?
“When I finally took ownership of my life and started working to make things better, it didn’t happen over night, but it did happen. If you had told me back then how great things are going now, I don’t think I would have believed that I would…

  • race cars for fun
  • create a successful blog with friends and visitors from all over the world
  • help other people change their lives and be happier
  • write an ebook on how to have a good relationship, and get it into over 1100 buyers’ hands in the first two months
  • come up with the idea for a huge project, get dozens of big-name people to collaborate, and see it gross over $100,000 dollars in three days
  • quit my job and follow my dream of supporting myself as a writer

The thing is, all of this was in my power all along. I just didn’t see it. My own fears, doubts, and mistaken beliefs were holding me back and keeping me trapped in a life of misery. All that time, I had the key to my own cell and chains. I just didn’t realize it.”
~Cara Stein at 17000 Days

Are You Selfish Enough to Succeed?
Your time is precious. You have to ruthlessly decide how to spend it, otherwise the path of least resistance (avoiding all negative consequences) will naturally fill your days.

You have to learn to say ‘no’ and get a little selfish if you want to make better things happen in your life.”
~Corbett Barr


The Problem with Choose Your Own Adventure
“Every single second of that story, the character is making his own decisions. It’s not the choice between options A & B, but the choice between options A, B, C, D, and E. It’s not one or the other either. It’s a combination of plan C & D and with a little bit of plan Z on the top….

Instead of choosing between Option A & Option B, why not go make Option W (Option: W = Whatever I feel like) happen? Just because no one tells you that option W is an option, doesn’t mean it’s not one. Create one and call it whatever you want. See who stops you.”
~Joel Runyon at Blog of Impossible Things


7 Good Reasons To Quit Your Desk Job And Become A Digital Entrepreneur
“It’s 10 o’clock in the morning and you’ve already had enough. Your eyes are glazed over, you’re half asleep in your chair, the week has dragged on so slowly. You just can’t wait for it to end. It’s only Monday. You are in the grind.

Millions of us are slaving away at jobs we are bored to death with and can barely tolerate. Millions of us will piss away the best years of our lives with a big empty hole in our souls. Millions of us will retire after 50 years of working  jobs we hate and be left with little more than a shell of our former lives.

The grind will slowly wear us down, eat away our passion, and steal from us our very souls.

It does not to go down like this. No, life does not need to suck.”
~Steve Roy at Ending the Grind


The Little Productivity Tip of a Zen Master
“Deal with something once. Do it now. Then it’s off your mind, and you can fully focus on the next matter.

Do most of us do this? We might read a bunch of emails, and say, ‘I’ll reply to those later. I’ll decide later.’ We might see a bill or other piece of mail, and put it aside for later.

We put off small decisions and tasks for later, and they pile up, weighing on us at the back of our minds, pulling on us until we collapse under the weight of ‘later’.

Try dealing with it immediately.”
~Leo Babauta at Zen Habits


Paying the Bills: Your Responses
A few interesting comments [to the question of] what you can do if you find yourself in need of extra cash to pay the bills.”
~Chris Guillabeau at The Art of Non-Conformity


6 Bad Excuses You Should Never Use Again
I can imagine some of you thinking when you read the last post, ‘That’s great and motivating but I have a mortgage, kids to feed, I’m not so smart, I don’t have experience, and I don’t even know where to begin.’

Excuses, excuses, excuses….

The path full of excuses leads to an average life.”
~Benny Hsu at Get Busy Living


If You “Could”, You Already Would
If you really want to do something, the truth is you probably don’t need anything more than you already have. In fact, the only thing you probably need more of? More doing.
~Joel Runyon at Blog of Impossible Things

Anger makes you forget other people are people
“Anger makes me forget other people are people.

They’re still around, their faces and voices, but they no longer quite appear to be people, like me. I become blind to the fact that other people might also be having a hard time. My world becomes entirely about me and the last thing on my mind is giving thought to how the other people might be doing. When we get angry, that’s the first casualty: compassion.”
~David Cain at Raptitude

The Things We Think But Do Not Say
In my quest for truth, I stumbled onto a website called It’s a site where people enter anonymous tweets about anything they want….Since it’s completely anonymous, you can imagine there is some seriously heavy shit on there. People with deep, dark secrets are finally able to get these things off their chests.

As you read through them, you begin to realize the mind frame of people. People are feeling hopeless, lost, depressed, and scared.

This is real truth.

This is why we need to wake people up to the fact that life does not need to be this bad. It really doesn’t. This is why I write this blog.”
~Steve Roy at Ending the Grind


Why I Don’t Have a Reality Show
[or, as I’ve alternately titled it, “Why You Should Follow Abby on Twitter”]
“Watched a squirrel for 10 minutes. Thought ‘Wow, squirrels are so easily entertained.’ Realized I just watched a squirrel for 10 minutes.

I would be a social butterfly if it didn’t involve other people. And bras.

Growing up on Disney movies has left me so disillusioned about small woodland creatures and their willingness to help me with my chores.”
~Abby Heugel at Abby Has Issues

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  • Abby

    As always, I am honored and delighted to be included. Plus, now I have a crapload of great posts to read this weekend. Your picks always rock. 

    • Cordelia

      Yeah, you’re basically a regular installment on the Link Loves at this point. Maybe I should rename it “Abby….& others…” :D

      Glad you enjoy the reads. Sorry for the inundation this time around!

  • Fabian

    Wow, that’s a list of interesting posts! Thanks for including me… I’m looking forward to check out the others! Happy weekend!

    • Cordelia

      My pleasure, it was an awesome post!

  • Cara Stein

    Thanks for the link love! Man, you found a ton of great reads–what great company to be in! :)

    • Cordelia

      You certainly deserve it–I love what an inspiration you are of “I’ve done it, you can do it too.”  You totally motivate me to keep striving for my seemingly “impossible” dreams.  :)

  • Benny Hsu

    The check is in the mail along with some love!

    Thank you again. I’m glad you shared Cara’s post cause I really loved it. 

    • Cordelia

      A check AND love? Sweet deal!

      Yeah, Cara’s post really revved me up to chase my dreams–as she always does. She’s the real deal when it comes to showing you that anything is possible.