I’m your average multitasking, career building, caffeine addicted 20-something woman. In other words, I have a tendency of putting way too much pressure on myself…for everything.
Pressure to find the perfect job. Pressure to make a living from my passions. Pressure to stay healthy. Pressure to support myself entirely, both financially and emotionally, without the help of anyone. Pressure to find the perfect man, have the perfect children, live in a perfect house, and have the rest of my life totally figured out, stock portfolio and retirement account included.
Pressure to go the gym, go to yoga, and compartmentalize every aspect of my life into a schedule. Pressure to live in the perfect city, have the perfect dog, and even write the perfect blog post.
Pressure to become as close to the perfect person I can be, with minimal emotional scrapes and bruises.
Guess what? Perfection is bullshit.
What Life Is Really About
I recently took a trip out to California to see some college friends and partake in a very good friend’s wedding. For five days I let the pressures of my life melt away and made it a point to just enjoy the company of my friends and the beautiful Pacific coast. I didn’t bring my laptop (sorry clients), I didn’t worry about how much my ass would be dragging at my 9 to 5 the following week, I didn’t stress about serving jury duty when I got back (talk about adult), and I didn’t care too much about all the money I was spending.
I drank, I laughed, I danced, and I remembered that life is more than just about achieving these perfect milestones you set for yourself. Life is more than just schedules, appointments, and racking up as many clients as you can. Life isn’t about being the perfect person, it’s about accepting yourself and rolling with the punches.
And so I quit. I quit putting so much pressure on myself. I quit stressing out over where I live, where I’ve been, and how I’ve been hurt. I quit trying to be the perfect person with the perfect life, because if anyone did ever reach perfection, I’m now certain their lives would be utterly boring.
Amanda is a Personnel Administrator for a Miami-based employment agency and a freelance writer. When she is not helping recruiters or writing for clients, she runs Grad Meets World, a popular Gen Y blog where she discusses health, career, personal finance, entrepreneurship, and more. For more on Amanda, feel free to visit her website.
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