The Case for Slowing the Fuck Down

Because I’ve stopped having blog ideas.

Because looking at my bloated Twitter stream makes me want to delete my entire online presence and forget it ever existed.

Because the emails never end.

Because I’ve owed one girl a blog review since November and still can’t find the time to make it happen.

Because I’ve cancelled with every friend I have at least 5 times in the past couple months.

Because I sometimes long to be back in the 9-5 just so I can have official “off” time.

Because I’ve forgotten what to do with myself when not attacking my to-do list.

Because losing an hour of time to Daylight Savings on Sunday nearly launched me into a meltdown.

Because I don’t think I’ve lived “in the moment” since I was 10.

Because I always feel guilty, inadequate and behind, like no matter what I do or how hard I do it, I will forever have more I should be doing and people I will be letting down.

Because I no longer know which way is up.

Because I got sick for a week and it feels like the rest of my 2014 will be spent trying to catch back up.

Because my body is screaming at me to treat it better.

Because in spite of approaching every minute according to its billable worth, murdering my social life and sanity and passion in the process, we are still in debt, and will continue to be until my husband is approved for disability benefits.

Because I hate approaching every minute by its billable worth.

Because I’m sick of reading everyone else’s thoughts and never allowing myself the space to have any of my own.

Because life is meant to be lived, not bookmarked and hashtagged and spun into a personal traffic-generating PR campaign. (Tweet!)

Because I’m sick of feeling like a brand that needs to be monetized instead of a living, breathing human creature.

Because I used to feel the sunset, and now I just feel tapped out.

Because reading people’s highlights and lowlights on Facebook gives you no idea what’s actually going on in their lives.

Because I’m overwhelmed by trivial data and underwhelmed by the experience of living.

Because I have a stack of 17 books waiting to be read.

Because I treat my clients better than I treat myself.

Because I have officially hit a wall that sheer determination and moxy can’t get me through.

Because it’s time to call it.

Because I’m supposed to be designing this lifestyle, not running madly after it in a forever reactionary state.

CCIQ Is Taking a Turn

For all these reasons above-mentioned, and oh so many more, I am officially announcing my resignation from busy-ness, 24/7 hustle and always being plugged in and ushering in a new, singular purpose for this year and this blog.

It is time to Slow the Fuck Down and remember what it means to be a living, breathing, feeling, dreaming human. The slashing and burning begins now.

This blog is on the way to its next evolution, and it’s going to be Quit-tastic.

Wanna join in? Join the Slow the Fuck Down campaign by tweeting your declaration with the hashtag #SlowTheFDown


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  • Chantal

    Are you reading my mind?

  • Chantal

    Great… a chicken and the egg conundrum. I’ve hadn’t had enough coffee or sleep for that (DST BITES)

    • I agree. I love the extra hour of daylight, but can’t we just keep it at that point all year long? I am not a farmer.

      • Chantal

        Seriously. Let’s start a campaign. Maybe we can raise a ridiculous sum on one of those fundraising sites to pay off farmers. 😉

        • I don’t know that the farmers care, one way or the other, either, anymore. Electric lights being like ubiquitous, these days…

          • Chantal

            Hey! I talked to a farmer yesterday (seriously, from Lethbridge, Alberta) and she said they LOVE DST … 😉

      • No SHIT!! Or – keep it the other way — It don’t make me no Never Mind!

        Big Hugs ~ {{{Cordelia}}} and

  • Oh, and “Slow the Fuck Down” oh yeah! “Fucking Tweet!” – that’s the closest you’ll see me to Twitter…
    and “LIKE” (same goes for FFB) … 🙂

    • Hahaha. I appreciate your quasi-Tweet. 🙂

  • This is great, if you don’t enjoy what you’re doing quit doing it, plain and simple.

    I’m glad you’ve found a new approach to attack your audience!

    • Thanks, George. It was time for a CCIQ 2.0 anyway — ever since I achieved the “big quit” (the day job), I’ve felt a little unmoored in terms of purpose. Took me a while to crystallize this new one, but I think it’s a great fit, and I’m looking forward to jumping into it full force!

  • Julia Hristova

    It was about time! Hustle’n’bustle is never the proper way to go. I wish you all the best as always :}

    • Thanks, Julia! So happy to have your support. 🙂

  • Heather

    “Because life is meant to be lived, not bookmarked and hashtagged and spun into a personal traffic-generating PR campaign.” LOVE this.

    • Thanks, Heather! It’s my current mantra for living. (I’m liking it much so far.) 🙂

  • I’ve been feeling most of these over the past few months. What seems to be working is making my quality of consciousness the priority in my life. It’s more important than traffic or monetization or even writing. I make sure I do a daily meditation practice of some kind, and practice being mindful throughout the day.

    I guess that’s my version of #slowthefuckdown. A few weeks into this, it’s getting way easier to do all the to-do’s I want to do, and also easier to drop all the ones I don’t want to do.

    • I know you get this — I nearly dislocated my neck nodding my head so vigorously to your recent posts. It really is a study in consciousness and mindful living, approaching life, from this sort of intentional angle, and I’m loving following your journey as I start my own. I have much to learn.

      I know I should get into meditation, but my mind is such a manic, topsy-turvy place I know it will be an epic struggle. Any recommendations for exercises that have worked for you?

      • Don’t worry about how topsy-turvy your mind is, that doesn’t matter. To meditate, you don’t need to silence your mind, just practice putting your attention where you want it. I can’t recommend enough the book Wherever You Go There You Are. It’s just so good.

        Really, anything that leaves you feeling more peaceful helps. Walking, visiting friends, needlepoint, whatever puts you back where you are.

        • I usually get “out of my head” best (and most thoroughly) by getting out of the house and talking to Real-Live People!

      • Cordelia ~ I’m working my way through the (as always) incredible comment stream at David’s latest post: There are some useful ideas there…

      • And, ummm, as always, lose the “shoulds” – they will hang you up the most!

  • Amen to this!

  • YES. I’m here, too.

    • Then it’s time to #SlowTheFDown, girl!

      • I had a boss once who told me to “quit should-ing yourself.” He said it as often as possible, mostly because profanity made me uncomfortable at the time but also because it’s something I needed (and need) to hear.

        • I’ve been called out on “should-ing” myself too. Not an easy habit to break free from…

  • Truth bombs all around

  • YES to all the things. Wow. Just the other day I decided I was going to pare what I’m focusing on to a few select areas instead of trying to do 12 million things at once. Of course, it remains to see how well that works.

    • Good for you! It isn’t easy, when you’re used to living in a state of constant busy-ness, but so far, I have to say it is so, so worth it.